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Puzzling reflections


You know, in this life we only get to see a little bit. In 1 Cor. 13 verse 12 Paul says,  “Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.”

I’m so glad that I don’t know everything! When I think about my past, my present and all that I see around me in the world, things are confusing. I can’t put the pieces together. When I make the mistake of putting too much stock in my own opinion and perspective, things get out of whack real quick. I start to get very stressed out because the conclusions I come to, which are based on my imperfect understanding, are awfully grim. There are things I see in the world and things that have happened in my life that I just don’t get. When I try to understand them, I just get more confused.

This verse is very freeing to me. It means there’s room for mystery. It means there’s room for, “I don’t know.” It means there’s room for, “I guess I’ll find out on the other side.” That takes a lot of pressure off of me. No matter how much I read, no matter how many podcasts I listen to, no matter how much scripture I memorize, I simply will never figure out all the complexities of this life. It’s just not gonna happen. God will continue to teach me and reveal things to me, but I’m just not gonna know the whole thing on this side of heaven. I’m ok with that. I think the reason that’s the case is because God wants us to trust him. He wants us to trust his heart and his character. You don’t need a whole lotta trust or faith when you know everything.

So, what about you? Are you living by faith or by sight? If you live by sight, you’re gonna hurt yourself and others. You’ll think you see it all and you may even feel confident of that, but you’ll be wrong. In your confidence in your own sight, you’ll make colossal mistakes that you don’t need to make. When you live by faith, there’s room to breathe. There’s room to say, “God, I just don’t know about this one, but I’m gonna trust you and see what happens.” My prayer is that you’ll choose the latter…that we’ll all choose the latter.

God, I love you and I trust you. I recognize that there’s a ton of stuff that I don’t understand and won’t understand this side of heaven. Help me to walk by faith and not by sight. Help me to posture myself as a child that is in constant need of his Dad for guidance.

In Jesus’ name,


2 Corinthians 5:7 “For we live by faith, not by sight.”

Election Day

Working from acceptance or for it?


The difference between working from acceptance or for it cannot be overstated. Working for acceptance means that when it comes to relationship with God and people, your primary motivation is to be approved and validated. You need people to like you and you are practiced in the art of impression management. You tend to not like it when other people are being approved because your tendency is to see them as competition. It’s OK to like being liked, but it’s another thing to need it. If your primary motivation in life is to work for acceptance, no amount of approval is ever enough. This probably is a big part of your relationship with God, too. Even though you may know that God loves you and has accepted you, that reality has not made into your heart. There is a sense that if you could just do enough good, maybe he would approve of you too.

I know that world all too well and am trying to find a better way. Working for acceptance is exhausting. You need everyone to like you and no matter how many followers you have on Instagram and no matter how many compliments you get, it’s never enough. You feel like if you could just be accepted by the right people or if you could just achieve enough, the need for approval would go away. If you work for acceptance, you peddle your identity on social media or in different social circles and you’re only as good as how others respond to you. I’ve lived this way for far too long and I can tell you it’s no way to live.

Working from acceptance is an entirely different thing. If you work from acceptance, you like being liked but you don’t need to be. There is a deep assurance that first and foremost, God accepts you. You’ve received Christ as your Lord and Savior and you know that God is pleased with you. You are assured of the fact that you are his beloved son or daughter and that nothing can change that. You’ve been assured in the depths of your soul that you are accepted by the One whose opinion matters more than anyone else in the universe. This deep and abiding revelation has freed you from the daily grind of impression management. You are shedding the grave clothes of mask-wearing and people pleasing. If people don’t approve of you or if they reject you, that is nowhere close to the end of you. Your sense of self-esteem does not rise and fall with how the outside world responds to you.

This way of living is not normal, but it is available. God loves you exactly as you are and wants to assure your heart of his love for you. He can usher you into a much more enriching existence if you are willing to follow and trust him. Old patterns of thought and harmful paradigms are not easily dismantled, but it is possible. The journey towards healing starts with honesty and that is where I would encourage you to start.

Are you working from acceptance or for it? I’ve worked for acceptance for a very long time and I’m making the slow, but important journey towards healing. I don’t want to need the approval of others and I don’t want my deepest fears to revolve around what other broken people think of me. There is Someone in the universe whose opinion of me does and should matter the most and he’s where I want my sense of identity to come from. I hope you’ll join me.

My most important spiritual discipline


The issues of life have a way of snowballing, don’t they? Stresses from life, work and relationships…fears about the future, regrets from the past and concerns about the present…and all the while we’re supposed to live lives of purpose and focus. How in the world are we supposed to stay grounded and have a relationship with God in the midst of all that?

One verse about Jesus’ life helps me to understand how he accomplished so much in the time he was here. Luke 5:16 says, “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” This is such an important passage to me. Pretty much ever since I gave my life to Christ, I’ve tried to do this.

One of the most important things to me is having a beautiful outdoor spot where I can get alone with God. When I go, all bets are off. My prayers are not well-formed or thought through. I just allow my heart and soul to unplug. I tell him whatever is going on in my mind and my goal is to simply connect with him. I generally don’t have one specific prayer request or thing I’m asking for. My goal is just to be real and share the most intimate issues of my heart with him. Sometimes this looks like anger or confusion. Sometimes it looks like exasperation and fatigue. Sometimes the only thing I know to do is just be still in hopes that I’ll experience his peace. It’s the time when I’m the most real and vulnerable and it’s the time I connect with him the best.

For me, this is the most important spiritual discipline. The spot I pick needs to be away from people and I love it when it has some natural beauty. I gotta feel like nobody is looking at me and that I’m free to just uncork. One thing that I definitely want to be said about my life is that “Chris often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” Could that be said about you? Jesus accomplished more in 3 years of ministry than any of us will accomplish in decades. If anyone had the ability to keep his mind clear and focused, it was Jesus. If he found the continual need to back away from people and the hustle and bustle of daily life, how much more should we?

Life has a way of ganging up on you. Things can accumulate in our hearts and minds leaving us feeling cluttered and disoriented. This simple practice of withdrawing to a lonely place to connect with God can be a game-changer. I don’t worry about what I’m gonna say when I get there and I don’t really make a plan…I just go. I don’t set a timer or worry too much about how long I’m going to be there either. It’s about quality, not quantity. My goal is to unplug and connect with the God who created me. I may not know anything about you, but I do know that you suffer from the same attacks that all humans face. I know that life has a way of crowding you out and making you feel small and stressed. I know there is a real enemy out there that is against the work of God in your life. My encouragement? Make at least a monthly practice of withdrawing to a lonely place and praying. For me, it’s best if I do this at least once a week. The rhythm is up to you, but I highly recommend you follow Jesus’ lead in this important spiritual discipline.

Stuck on the diving board

diving board

Have you ever been stuck on a diving board? I certainly have. It’s the worst feeling on the planet, especially if the pool is packed around you. There are people waiting in line behind you and spectators all over the place just waiting for you to make a fool of yourself. For some of us, we also have all kinds of videos playing in our heads with all the things that could go wrong…especially if you’re about to try something that’s a little out of your comfort zone. You’re pretty sure you can do it, but you’ve never done it before, so there are no guarantees.

There are some people who are high flying off diving boards. If this is you, you don’t even think about it. By the way, you nauseate the rest of us, but we love to watch and secretly live through you. You step up and do a back flip with a twist as if there wasn’t even a possibility you could fail and then you jump up there and crush a gainer nailing the landing perfectly. You live in a place some of us can only dream of. On the other side of the spectrum are those that may jump, but you’re not gonna try anything interesting. For those in that camp, I respect your decision. I mean, you have nothing to prove and why risk disaster? I totally get that. You may not even be interested in pushing yourself outside your comfort zone.

I live in what I believe to be the worst place…somewhere in the middle. I have an internal need or desire to try new things, but I’m scared to death of it. What that ends up looking like is me being afraid before I get up there, second guessing myself while I’m up there and every once in a while, pulling off something at least somewhat cool. A trip to the pool is a win for me if I can get myself to get a little out of my comfort zone.

Here’s the thing, whether or not a diving board is your jam, I’ve become convinced that greatness cannot be achieved while living inside your comfort zone. They are mutually exclusive. I have yet to read a book or hear a sermon where the author or speaker talk about how they stumbled into success while living safely inside their comfort zone. Their breakthrough achievement ALWAYS involves doing or saying something that was terrifying to them. What’s worse, the fear didn’t even go away before they did or said that terrifying thing. They had to fight through it. It was on their shoulder the whole time, telling them they were gonna fail and how awful it would be when they did. And yet….

There was a deeper voice inside. A voice inside whispering to them that this is a divine moment. They didn’t have all the answers at the time. They didn’t necessarily know the opportunity cost of not doing whatever that challenging thing was. They just had a premonition that if they missed this moment, things would not be as good as they could be. I just heard a quote the other day that expresses this thought. It’s something like, “People tend to overestimate the value of what they have and underestimate the value of what they could have by changing.” That’s not verbatim, but you get the point.

I may not know much about you, but what I do know is that the road to your God-ordained destiny is going to be paved with moments like these. Moments when you experience a great fear inside that is telling you that moving forward is a bad idea. In those moments, the overwhelming temptation will be to back down and stay in your comfort zone. But you’re also going to experience a voice inside that’s deeper than the fear. That voice will be saying, “Go for it. This is an opportunity you need to take. This is a moment you need to seize. Charge!” I’m not saying this is the case every time, but I do believe that sometimes, that voice is the voice of God. So, where are you stuck on the diving board? I love this quote from the movie, We Bought A Zoo….“You know, sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage. Just, literally, 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” This is your moment, charge!

Here is one of those tiny moments where I overcame the fear just a little bit (-;

Please don’t have it together


Quite honestly, I meet too many people who have it together. You can tell the type, can’t you? They just exude a sense of arrival. In our age of social media, it has become easier and easier to convince the watching world that our lives are great. Our kids are always adorable, our lives are messy, but in all the right kinds of ways. We’ve, with the help of Jesus of course, escaped the brokenness of the world. We always smile, we never fight with our spouses and we certainly don’t struggle with ongoing mental, emotional and spiritual brokenness. Welcome to the world of TOGETHER.

We all have those people in mind, don’t we? Those people that we are pretty certain have life figured out. The fact that they wouldn’t say they have life figured out adds all the more fodder to our idea that they have life figured out. Truth of the matter is, I struggle with trying to pretend I’m one of those people.

People don’t really know what to do with brokenness. Try telling someone how your day is really going and watch the glaze go over their eyes. Most people don’t really care how you’re doing. Unfortunately, that’s just the reality of the situation. Sure, out of guilt they’ll pretend to, but most honestly don’t. Most people want to hear that you’re doing great because that helps them perpetuate the lie that they’re doing great too. It’s a vicious cycle.

Honestly, I’m tired of trying to have it together and I’m tired of being around people who pretend to have it together. But, what’s the alternative? Are we all supposed to be emotionally raw with everyone around us? Should we post our most miserable moments on Facebook instead of our most joyous ones? How can we be “positive,” but also real? I have some ideas.

  1. Find a mentor or two

People who think they have it together are allergic to relationships that assert the opposite. Sitting down regularly with a mentor means that you have a relationship in your life where the fundamental understanding is that someone is further along than you. This helps break down the pride and leads us closer to reality.

2. Have at least one person in your life who isn’t impressed with you

I love the way my wife honors me. She is a phenomenal woman and she reminds me regularly that she thinks the world of me. That being said, my wife is a truth-teller. It is simply not in her nature to not speak truth or act like she agrees with something she doesn’t agree with. I may get tons of head nods and smiles from other people, but Abbi is going to let me know what’s up. This is so incredibly helpful when it comes to keeping me grounded.

3. Share about your brokenness

I’ve heard it said before that we impress others with our strengths, but we connect with them through our weaknesses. There are tons of social situations where I’m tempted to talk about my strengths. Especially if I feel inferior or uncomfortable, I’ve mastered the art of sharing something I’m good at in a seemingly humble way. Let’s not do that. Instead, even when we know we could probably impress others, let’s go the other way in an effort to connect. Paradoxically, there are few things more impressive to me than someone who is incredibly strong who doesn’t seem to know it or isn’t impressed by their own strength. That’s a rare thing in our day and age!

4. Start comparing yourself to Jesus

You know, the more you spend time with Jesus, the more challenging it will become to convince yourself and others that you have it together. The world will say you have it together once you get your image under control. Just buy a house, post the right things on social media, smile a lot and a handful of other things and then you’re in. It’s that simple. But if you start spending lots of time with Jesus, your brokenness will become more and more clear. For those of us who call ourselves Christians, we have said that we want to become more and more like Christ. Part of that process is facing deeper and deeper levels of our own depravity. The cool thing about God is that he doesn’t shame you, but instead he brings you hope and healing.

There is more that could be said, but please don’t have it together. When we act like we have it together, we just perpetuate the vicious cycle that our culture lives in. We also inadvertently make it harder for those around us who are struggling to be real with us and with themselves. Life is hard enough. We don’t need people around us constantly reminding us that our lives don’t measure up, but this isn’t about throwing stones. The best way to affect social change is to embody what you want to see in the world around you. (Ghandi) So, let’s do it together.

Immersed in God’s word

God's word

The Bible is my favorite book, period. The purpose of this post isn’t to convince you that it’s God’s inspired word or that you need to read it. If you’re not already at least somewhat convinced of it’s importance and power, I don’t know that this post will be super helpful to you. I’m speaking to those who realize the Bible is incredible, but struggle to make it an enjoyable part of their daily routine.

Perhaps the 2 most basic disciplines for the Christian’s spiritual journey are reading the Bible and prayer. The application of most sermons you hear tend to point towards these 2 disciplines in some way, shape or form. It’s hard for me to imagine having a growing and vibrant spiritual life if you’re not regularly hearing from God through his word and communicating with him in prayer. I try not to approach these disciplines with a “religious” or legalistic mindset, but I would strongly admonish every Christian to make sure these are daily habits. That being said, I used to have a very difficult time connecting my time in God’s word and prayer.

I would read a passage, feel somewhat inspired by it and then set the Bible down. I might take out a journal or try praying in some other way, but the prayer time never felt connected to anything I had just read. I always felt these two disciplines should be married and intertwined, but they always felt very disconnected. Something changed for me last year that has permanently shifted how I approach these two disciplines.

A pastor at Seacoast recommended that I read The Divine Mentor by Pastor Wayne Cordeiro. For me, it was a very simple, but profound read. In the book, Pastor Wayne shares the S.O.A.P. method of studying scripture. The S stands for scripture, the O stands for Observation, the A stands for application and the P stands for prayer. The idea is simple and I’ve been following this method every day for about 6 months.

Here’s what I do….I follow a basic Bible reading plan on the YouVersion Bible app. I’m doing the Bible in a year plan, so I start by reading through the different scriptures for the day. After I’m done with that, I take out my journal. As I’m reading through the different scriptures, I’m trying to pay attention to any passages that stick out that God may want me to focus on. After I’m done reading, I’ll pick one passage that I want to journal about. I date and title the entry and then I write the passage down for the S portion of the exercise. Then I write down any observations I have. I don’t try to be super deep or anything. I just try to be attentive to anything that sticks out to me from the passage. After that I’ll write down anything that sticks out for application. I don’t try to inundate myself with lots of to-dos, but I just want to make sure I’m always approaching scripture with an attitude that says I want to change. Then I write my prayer out. I pray whatever I’m feeling for the day and just let that go where it goes. I do this every single day and it has completely changed the way I approach reading the Bible and prayer.

Because I date and title every post, I’m going to be able to look back at 2016 and easily look through everything I felt the Lord impressed on my heart this year. If my kids or loved ones ever want to look through my journals in the future, they’ll be able to see what I felt God had communicated to me throughout my life. The discipline of S.O.A.P. has been life-changing for me and my time with the Lord in the morning is the most valuable portion of my day. I wouldn’t miss it for the world.

That being said, there’s nothing magical about Pastor Wayne’s method. If you already have one that works for you, please stick with it by all means. I just wanted to briefly share what I’ve been doing in hopes that it might be helpful to you. The Bible is God’s inspired word and is an indescribably valuable asset, but it must be accessed. To access the infinite wisdom contained in its’ pages, some type of method must be employed. I heard a pastor say recently that “the best system is the one that works,” so on that note, I encourage you to keep growing through the intentional disciplines of reading the Bible and prayer.



Begin with the end in mind

Death pathway

In John 17, we find Jesus close to the end of his earthly ministry and he is praying what is known as his High Priestly Prayer. In John 17:4 he says,  “I brought glory to you here on earth by completing the work you gave me to do.” Jesus was on earth for a mission. There is no denying that truth. Regardless of how we judge or perceive his work, it’s clear that he believed he did what he came to do. There is a lot we could say about that, but I want to talk for a moment about purpose. 

At the end of my life here on earth, there is a lot that I hope people will say about me. I hope to have accomplished a ton of stuff by then. There are places I want to see, people I want to meet and I want to know that I have lived life to the fullest. I honestly could write a book about all that I want to happen between now and then, but what’s the most important stuff? Loving God obviously is at the very top of the list. Loving my wife and kids well would fall right under that for me. Being a good pastor and carrying out my calling well also makes it to the top of the list, but what’s the bulls eye? What is the most important thing to focus on? They say that if everything is important, then nothing is important. So, what is it for you and me?

I think that what Jesus said in the above passage sums it up perfectly. “I brought glory to you here on earth by completing the work you gave me to do.” Jesus was given work to do by God and so have we. God has given you a specific work to do…did you know that? The reason you are still above room temperature is because that work isn’t done yet. If it was, it’d be time for you to get the eternal promotion. I can think of nothing better for us to be able to say at the end of our lives than that we completed the work God gave us to do.

So, if you’re on board with that, how do we go about engaging in and finishing the work God gave us? There is no formula for this. There are helpful principles, but there are no formulas. Each one of us is different and unfortunately, there isn’t a specific book of the Bible dedicated to each of us. Let me give you some ideas that will hopefully be helpful…

  1. Start a relationship with Jesus

In the preceding verse, John 17:3, Jesus says, “And this is the way to have eternal life—to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one you sent to earth.” The conversation about what your work looks like can’t even begin until you begin a relationship with Jesus. He loves you, he died for you and he has a purpose for your life. In fact, in Revelation 3:20 Jesus is speaking and he says, “Look! I stand at the door and knock. If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in, and we will share a meal together as friends.” Jesus is saying he wants to have that conversation with you. Your job is to open the door.

2.  Spend quality time with him daily

Having a relationship with Jesus is not about box-checking, it’s about pursuing the heart of God with everything you have. I’m not trying to guilt you into reading the Bible, but reading the Bible daily and writing your prayers in a journal are very helpful disciplines. Again, don’t confuse the vehicle with the destination. The goal is pursuing God’s heart and reading the Bible and praying are simple ways to do that.

3. Find some mentors

They could be mentors that you know in real life or distant mentors that you learn from through books, but we all need mentors. These are men and women that we look to for wisdom and guidance. They have walked in our shoes before and they can offer invaluable wisdom as we navigate life’s challenging waters. When it comes to finding mentors to have relationship with, I would start by asking some of these people to lunch. Maybe don’t ask them if they’ll be your lifelong mentor because that sounds like a pretty daunting task. Just start by engaging in conversation and make sure you let them do most of the talking. Your job is to take notes, listen and apply what’s being taught.

4. Surround yourself with life-giving community

The Christian journey was not meant to be done on our own. We were meant to find encouragement and support through deep and meaningful friendships. These relationships are worth the effort to pursue, so don’t take a backseat on this one. Initiate these friendships and be the one who is a catalyst for community. Make your house the place to hang out at and you be the one to invite the person to Starbucks. Don’t sit back and wait for these friendships to materialize out of thin air…go after them!

There is more I can say about this, but I want to honor your time and keep the focus simple. I want to be able to get to the end of my life and say that I completed the work God gave me to do. I don’t know what that work is going to look like and I don’t know how everything is going to pan out. I know I’ve done some of the work already and I have a sense that I still have a long way to go. To do that work, I need to hear from God by all necessary means. I need to be intimately connected with him through his word and in prayer. I need the support of life-giving community and I need godly mentors who can help guide me along the way.

There are a lot of things that we could make the focus of our life’s journey. We could make the target having lots of money, influence, friends and status. There isn’t anything necessarily wrong with these things, but the clearer the focus, the better off we’ll be. Jesus’ earthly ministry only lasted 3 years and he started a revolution that changed the world. His focus was on completing the work God gave him to do. My hope for us is that we’ll have the same focus and that by doing so, we can be a part of is plan to change the world.


“Dad, please take your shoes off.”


I love being a father to 3 boys! Isaac and Jonathan just started t-ball and it has already been such a blast to help coach them. There are definitely days where I feel like I’m making up the dad thing as I go along, but God has been so faithful.

For the past few weeks, JoJo (Jonathan) has been asking me, “Dad, please take your shoes off,” while I’m at the house. At first, I didn’t get why he was asking me that. I know he doesn’t care if I track mud in the house! I also know he probably doesn’t care if I feel comfortable or not…I mean, he’s 4!

What I quickly realized is that he wants to know that when I’m playing with him, I’m not planning on going anywhere else. In his 4 year old mind, when dad puts his shoes on, it’s about time for him to go. That means that when I play with him, it’s important to him that my shoes are off. That communicates to him that I’m here to stay and focus on him while we spend time together.

This is one of the biggest things I’ve learned so far about parenting…presence is everything! You don’t have to have all the answers and you don’t need to always have the best strategy, but you do need to wholeheartedly engage…consistently.

I think this can look like some key practical decisions we can make on a daily and weekly basis…

  1. Minimize phone time in the house

It’s all too easy to allow our minds to drift into iPhone/social media land. Minutes can fly out the window faster than we can count them and they are minutes we’ll never get back. Make the intentional call to set the phone aside and focus on your family.

2. Keep the house 75-80% clean

This may not apply to everyone, but I gotta say it! Unless you’re superhuman and are just always able to keep your house clean, don’t stress yourself out too much on this. Especially if you have small kids, give yourself some grace and realize that clean for you doesn’t need to look like clean for the husband and wife down the street without any kids.

3. Invest your full energy

I could easily rationalize giving Abbi and the kids a low percentage of my energy after a long work day. I could come up with all the excuses about how I provide for the family and they just need to give me grace, but I don’t want to roll like that. If they are truly at the top of my priority list under God, the quality of energy I give them needs to meet or exceed the quantity.

4. Have fun

I sometimes see parents who don’t seem to enjoy their kids. A family is a wonderful combination of play and purpose. You don’t want all play and no purpose because then you have a clown house…but you also don’t want all purpose and no play because that’s fun for no one. Make sure to have tons of fun with your kids.

“Dad, please take your shoes off.” This simple statement from JoJo has reinforced an extremely important parenting principle. Presence is everything and more important than the kids hearing me tell them I love them, they need to see it every single day with my bare feet (-;

God bless!



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